Q:Honestly , do you think is there any point of being in a long term relationship when you know that person isn't the person you would like to marry? Because they don't have the qualities you want In a life partner.
This is a very personal decision. For me, I only date people who I think would be life partners. But for other people they are fine just dating casually and having fun with someone.
It is definitely something you have to decide and figure out for yourself.
Q:im going on birth control as i just finished my period. everyone keeps telling me i will gain weight, my doctor said that i wont gain weight with the pill he is going to give me. do all pills make you gain weight? how exactly does birth control work, could you explain it to me? i dont want to go into the doctors office not knowing anything about it, i know a little bit but i would love to know more. could you girls help me out?
You do not gain weight on the pill. Occasionally people will gain a bit of water weight around their period (but if you don’t do this already, you probably won’t gain any weight). This is easily remedied by switching brands. It also can increase PMS cravings (again, if you have this as a symptom it may intensify it), so just be conscience of this and plan your meals/snacks ahead of time. Ultimately, 5 pounds and jeans being tight is better than pregnancy, raising a child, or having an abortion in my opinion!
We have talked about birth control a lot, so go ahead and scroll through our birth control tag, it will tell you all you need to know : ) You also may consider another method after you learn about it too!
Q:what is vagiusims? im not sure how to spell it but i know its where you cant insert anything in your vagina or something but i could be wrong, if you have that does that mean you cant have sex? one of my friends suggested it to me because im super tight but i dont think i have it? do you know any symptoms or anything like that? im just a bit worried x
You are thinking about “vaginismus” We actually are not sure what causes it but the symptoms are intense pain when genitals are stimulated.
If you can insert a tampon or fingers, you are capable of inserting a penis. Go slow, use lube, and relax!
Q:is it impossible to actually not be capable to have sex? is that even a thing? im really tight and im a virgin and my boyfriend isnt and im actually worried we will never be able to have sex because im worried about the pain and im worried in general. am i over reacting or can i not be able to have sex because im working myself up about it?
There are certain conditions of the hymen that can cause it to be physically impossible for you to have sex.
If you can insert a tampon/fingers you will be able to have sex. Just relax, use lube, and go slowly.
Q:Heyyy what are the chances of pregnancy if you're using a double layer condom with spermicide and you use it correctly
(I am assuming we are talking about male/external condoms, so that is what I focus on)
If by “double layer” you mean using two condoms, this actually lowers the effectiveness of condoms. Two condoms increase the chance of them slipping off and it increases friction (which leads to breaking). So just use one.
And spermicidal condoms are about 97% effective. Polyisoprene condoms (like Skyn Lifestyle) are about 98% effective.A final Note: spermicide can actually break down other condoms, so make sure that you are using condoms with spermicide already in them!
Q:Recently I started my BC pills again(not consistent atm) because my period lasted 3weeks since i stopped taking BC pills about 1-1 1/2 month ago. About 2 nights ago, My boyfriend& I decided to get a little intense& he just rubbed up against me.Only 2x he accidentally almost went in but luckily only on the vaginal opening. I'm on my last week of my pills and haven't started my period yet. Is it possible I may be pregnant?(he never finished inside me or around the area) or is my period irregular?
It’s very unlikely that you’d be pregant.
- Chloe (gggrohl)
Q:If a guys cum is bitter does it mean he has an unhealthy eating and nutrition lifestyle?
- Chloe (gggrohl)
Q:So I've recently had a couple of problems with UTIs. The first one was definitely because I forgot to pee after sex, and I was super careful every time since to do that since I didn't want another. It's only been around 3 months, and even with peeing I managed to get another UTI. Is there anything else I can do to prevent these other than just not have sex? I don't quite have the money to deal with having to go get antibiotics every few months.
d-mannose, staying super hydrated, and ensuring that you wipe correctly (front to back) are really the only things I know of. Cranberry juice isn’t actually that effective and is more of an old wives tale.
You can also chat with your doctor about it and see what tips they have.
Can dry humping with clothes on transmit STDs?
Someone asked us:
Can dry humping , while clothed cause std’s to be transmitted ??
For the most part, no. Dry humping with clothes on is super safe (hooray!) as long as your genitals are fully covered by the clothes you’re wearing.
Dry humping in jeans or shorts or anything that fully covers you is risk-free. Dry humping in underwear that doesn’t totally cover your genital area may not totally prevent skin-to-skin genital contact or keep genital fluids off of each other. This ups the chances of transmitting certain STDs a little bit, but is still safer than full-on naked genital rubbing.
Some STDs, like herpes and HPV, are spread by skin-to-skin genital touching. These STDs can live on areas in the genital region that underwear may not cover (like the upper thighs or buttocks). So it’s unlikely, but still possible, for dry humping to spread STDs if your entire crotch area isn’t covered by clothing.
And let’s not forget the “dry” in “dry humping.” STDs can also be spread through semen (cum), pre-cum, and vaginal fluids. Clothes can help prevent you and your partner from exchanging body fluids, but again, if these body fluids find their way to each other’s genitals, STDs can be transmitted. It’s possible for these fluids to soak through one layer of underwear, but it’s nearly impossible for them to soak through two pairs of underwear and pants.
-Kendall at Planned Parenthood
Important information, we get quite a few questions about dry humping, so read up!
Q:Would it be weird if I facebook messaged the guy i kinda like? We've hooked up a couple times but haven't gotten each others numbers yet. I just don't know if I should make the first move since i'm shy about this stuff but it seems like he is too. I just don't know if that would be too forward (sorry for the bad/weird question!)
It is up to you. I would say you can just Facebook him your number with a little explanation of “you should text me: )” or something. There is no harm in trying to reach out!
Q:Thoughts on the proposed male birth control vasogel? And your thoughts on pills that keep you from getting your period for three months? Any advice for women who want to take it?
What an INTERESTING topic - Thanks for bringing it up!
What is VASOGEL?: A male contraceptive that was developed by a Doctor in India in the 1970’s. You may have heard of it as RISUG (Reversible Inhibition of Sperm Under Guidance). It was developed as a “upgrade” to the traditional vasectomy because it is completely reversible.
HOW does it work?: A polymer (a gel) is injected into the vas deferens (the channel that transports sperm from the epididymis to the ejaculatory ducts in anticipation of ejaculation), coating the walls and killing the sperm as they go by. The procedure involves one shot and takes about 15 minutes. The traditional form a male contraception is a vasectomy which cuts the vas deferens and therefore is very difficult to reverse (see illustration below). If/when a one desires fertility to be restored, the polymer is flushed out of the vans with another infection. This can take place within months or years and fertility is completely restored within 2-3 months. Vasogel is known to work for at least 10 years.
Here’s a video depiction of how it works: (It’s from a few years ago, so I don’t think the release dates at the end are accurate)
Why haven’t we heard more about VASOGEL?: Oh, politics! Vasogel is currently only available in India near its original testing site. It seems awesome right!? Completely reversibly, no hormones, for once the person with the egg doesn’t also have to be in only person in charge of not getting pregnant. YAY!! I can’t say for sure, but many sources I’ve read allude to the argument that we haven’t seen/heard of of this contraception sooner because there’s no BIG Pharma $$$ in a cheap, long-term form of contraception.
There are whispers of plans to bring it to the U.S. and Canada. The Parsemus Foundation is a non-profit working to bring Vasogel to the market. Their website reports that clinical trials on humans (rabbits have been completely successful) are planned to begin sometime this year!
Something very cool to keep out eyes out for!
Q:I am currently living in London and I have feelings for this guy I have casually been seeing the last four years. Long story short we used to date, broke-up and have been seeing each other when he came home. Hes done with school and is home and we were both sad that I had to leave just when he came home. We have a skinny love for each other but I have noticed since leaving hes started to put more effort in staying in touch and wondering how I am. Is it possible he wants to get back together?
It sounds possible. I would just ask him what he is thinking as far as the two of you.
Q:I was celibate for about a year. I started seeing a guy a few months ago and we became sexually active about 2 months ago and I haven't had my period since we became sexually active (I also started school at around the same time and some other added stresses). I was on the pill but I've been about a month without because I have to go to the doc. He had a vasectomy like 10 years ago and we don't use condoms. What are my chances of being pregnant? Could I just be missing b/c stress and changes?
Vasectomies are over 99 percent effective so it is very unlikely that you are pregnant. I would just take a pregnancy test just to be sure and make and appointment with the doctor. Anytime you miss two periods in a row you need to chat with your doctor.
Q:Everytime i'm having sex with my boyfriend he gets really intense and calls me names (whore, slut, cunt and a lot more). I've talked with him but he says he is sorry and that he does that because it turns him on but it just hurts me and during sex it turns me off. I feel like a whore now and dirty. Is it wrong what he is doing? or am i not understanding his needs?
I think that if you are not okay with it then he needs to stop doing it during sex, or you need to stop having sex with each other.
Q:When I'm having sex with my bf sometimes it gets intense, my toes curl really hard and I moan, is it possible that it's mini orgasms that I'm having? Because that happens a few times during our sex, at different intervals. Is there such thing?
Yes! Mutliple orgasms are a thing, and it sounds like you may be having them.