Q:I got drunk with a friend last night. While making out he kept asking me to wank him off but I didn't want to so I said no. But he didn't listen and remained persistent. So I gave in unfortunately. He then decided this wasn't enough and put his dick in my face. I refused him. But he kept rubbing his dick in my face. I kept saying no but he wouldn't listen. I cried giving him a blow job & now feel awful. I don't see him as the same person. But is this a big deal or am I overreacting?
Massive deal, it is sexual assault. Obviously avoid this person and give yourself some time off from drinking. I would also consider talking to someone about what happened if you think that will be helpful for you.
Q:Okay this is gonna be weird but me and my boyfriend of five months usually like hang out in his basement and for the first time I showed him my breasts... And his mom walked in and took me home what should I do? She's pretty cool about it so far but I'm a freshman in highschool and he (my bf) tells me she lost her virginity to his father at 14 so idk what to do I just need some advice I'm freaking out
I don’t think that it matters when she had sex for the first time. But that is always a little awkward when parents walk in on naked children. So I would just proceed politely and be a bit more careful where you two take your clothes off : )
Q:I was having sex with my boyfriend and he just went crazy I think. He grabbed my hands and put them together and never let go, and he pined me on the bed and started "fucking" me really hard. Is that considerate a rape? I told him to stop but he didn't until he came, he slapped me on my cheeks but I didn't like it, none of it. After all he told me we should do that again so it could be more fun..
If anyone retracts consent, or stops being enthusiastic about giving it yes that is rape.
If you are uncomfortable with it you need to talk to him about it and tell him it is not okay.
Q:my boyfriend says he is ready for sex and really wants it but whenever we get close to it he says he's too nervous. do you think he might need some more time?
It seems like he is pretty clearly telling you that he needs more time. So just talk to him (outside of the bedroom, when all of your clothes are on) that you are fine waiting and that there is no rush (unless there is, in which case tell him that you are needing sexual satisfaction and don’t push him but rather negotiate a more open relationship, or end it if he isn’t cool with that either).
Q:i already asked you guys a similar question to the last time but its seriously bugging me and i feel like its going to destroy my relationship. i havent had sex with my boyfriend nor ever had sex before and i feel like its physically impossible for me to have sex because im scared. is normal to be scared and is it seriously impossible for me not to be able to do it? i feel like everyone can have sex but me, is that normal or should i be worrying about it?
I think it is time to make an appointment with the doctor. We can cite statistics and make assurances until we are blue in the face (or would it be fingers since we are online?) but that will not replace a trained professional looking at you and speaking with you one-on-one.
(But just for the record, you are totally normal, and will be able to have sex. Assuming that you can insert a finger/tampon)
Q:How long does it normally take for a guy to cum when masturbating?
Depends on the guy, how long since they last orgasmed, how long they have been aroused, and what they are watching or touching themselves with.
I would say anywhere from 2-45 minutes is totally reasonable. Though, it could be longer if they want to delay it, or shorter if they are already really close to orgasm when they start touching themselves.
Q:I'm light skinned but my vagina area is dark and I don't know why. Can you explain? It's honestly embarrassing and I want to get rid of it.
It’s because genitals come in all kinds of fun, exciting, and beautiful colors. Vulva can range from very light pink, to dark red, brown, and even purple! Everyone’s looks a bit different, but there are usually similarities that we can pick out when we see other peoples.
As far as changing it, I am sure there are expensive procedures that you can get. But what is the harm in loving yourself?
Q:good positions for people who aren't flexible?
Just about any are fine, like standard missionary, pentrator behind with penatratee on all fours, spooning sex (think spooning but with sex), etc.
Q:so it's not a big deal to have cold sores? Is it something I need to go to the doctor for?
They are super contagious, and you should avoid oral sex when you have or think you are getting an outbreak. Depending on how frequently you get them you can get Valtrex to help treat them.
Q:Do all people with cold sores have herpes? I am getting one and that's not usual for me. I shared a drink the other day with someone who is now developing one too. I'm scared
Cold sores are a strain of herpes but it isn’t the same as genital herpes.
As doctors have explained to me, and I have researched later, cold sores are herpes. They can be caused by 1 or 2, just like genital herpes. But without having a serious medical/immune condition, you rarely get both cold sores and genital herpes.
Cold sore outbreaks can be suppressed with Valtrex (a prescription) or L-lysine (an over the counter supplement) or tea tree oil (water it down! and apply topically).
10 Tips for Making New Friends
1. Listen to people when they’re talking; show an interest in what they have to say.
2. Make an effort to remember peoples’ names and use them the next time you meet them.
3. Follow up with people you are interested in staying in touch with. Call them up, send them an email or arrange to meet for a coffee or drink.
4. Treat everyone the same – act as if they are the most important person in the world (at least while you are talking to them).
5. Get involved in clubs and activities. Force yourself to go out and be with others.
6. In conversations, stick to safe topics before you know someone well. Don’t be quick to share your political or religious views, or to go on about your pet grievances.
7. Make sure you come across as someone who’s friendly the first time you meet someone new. Greet them warmly, smile, share your name and ask them theirs.
8. Be aware of other peoples’ culture and be sensitive to any potential differences. You don’t want to offend other people – either deliberately or inadvertently. The goal is to be seen as a person who is friendly, respectful and warm.
9. Don’t rush your interactions with people as that sends the message that you’re not interested in them, or what they have to say.
10. Don’t be false – just be your normal self. People would prefer to find out who you are.
With the school year in full swing it is important to remember this!
Q:If i talk like flirting to another boy, am i cheating? i know that having sex isnt the only way to cheat, but i really like this boy and i cant talk to him reasonably.. shall i stop it? my boyfriend doesnt know anything, he thinks hes just another boy of my class. Pls answer me because idk if what im doing its okay... i also think that this boy entertains me, my bf is a bit boring but i love him so much..
Cheating can only be defined by those in the relationship, so I can’t say if you are or not.
But if you are spending more time fantasizing about, or pursuing, a relationship with someone else you need to change the relationship you are in. Either by negotiating a more open relationship, or ending the relationship.
Q:I met this guy last week and we got drunk and ended up having sex. I'm hurt because my friend who was sober left me alone with him in a room even though she knew we were both wasted. I'm hurt because before my other friend was in the same position but my friend didn't leave her alone with any guy. So why did she let me alone? I feel hurt by both the guy and my friend.
Yeah, that was a shitty thing of her to do, but I know not everyone sees it that way. So you will have to talk to her and ask her not to do that again, etc.
Alcohol and drugs can really make consent tricky/hard, so just try to stay around other people and in a position where you can say no, and/or chat with your friends about buddying up so no one gets left in that position (whoever is driving can usually do this). It is not a great solution, but until everyone realizes that drunk/high people cannot give consent, it is the best suggestions I have.
I don’t think it would be unreasonable of you to maybe to talk to a school counselor (they are bound by confidentiality, so no biggie) for a session or two and just get their feedback as well.
Q:I'm a small person and my boyfriend is large and whenever we have sex and I'm facing towards him it hurts me what can we do?
Well if other positions don’t hurt, then do that. You can also make little adjustments to your/his hip placement and that will also work. We have a decent amount of positions linked here, so see which ones look like fun and get to work!