1. Recognize the benefits of trusting others, and building some meaningful relationships. If you never let others get close to you, then you’re likely to feel lonely and empty inside.
2. Remember that one person doesn’t have to meet your needs. We can trust different people with aspects of…
Q:I'm a junior in HS and everyone is talking about college and stuff. I really have no idea what I want to do with my life. I just know that I'd like to go to a school somewhere away from home. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and I'm afraid that if we go to schools that are far away we might break up and that worries me so much. I love him and I don't want what is supposed to be an exciting time to cause us to separate. Any advice on what to do?
I would say that you should be honest with yourself and see what choices you would make if you weren’t in a relationship…and then talk to your partner about them. Distance is not a relationship-killer you just have to manage it correctly.
Q:I'm in love with this guy, he's 22 and I'm 17, he said I was really pretty but I'm too young for him.we don't talk anymore,I realized that nothing's ever going to happen between us but idk what to do to get over him
Time and distraction are helpful in getting over any type of feelings. So that.
Q:When my boyfriend and I have sex he ejaculates in me with the condom on and we are very careful about taking it off and making sure it's correctly put on. However at the base of the condom there's always like a whiteish clearish liquid inside of the condom. It doesn't look like sperm because his sperm is usually at the tip of the condom. What could it be?
It could be sperm, make sure he is leaving at least one inch (about a thumb’s width) at the top of the condom. It could also be lubricant from you, in which case the condom is not fitting correctly and you need to go down a size—if things can get in, things can also be getting out, putting you at serious risk for STIs and pregnancy.
Q:Why didn't u answer me? :(
Because Chloe and I don’t get paid enough to run this blog (ha!)…you will get an answer in a few days. Relax.
Q:I have a crush on this guy. He's really chill, into indie music and life style and very attractive. He even makes independent films. There are two big problems though. The problem is he is 30 and I am turning 21 next month. I am also going to be studying abroad in the fall. I don't know what to do or how to feel, I know I don't want a relationship when I go abroad but I can't help my feelings, or my age. What should I do?
I would say to just enjoy the time you are spending together now, and you will only be away for a few months which really isn’t that long. Before you leave you should definitely sit down and chat about expectations for when you are apart.
Q:I lost my virginity. we used a condom. A week later when i was due to get my period i got it but it was very light for the first two days and just like dark discharge for the next 2 days, which never happens to me. I had exams around then so maybe it was stress but i dont think so! Im scared that that bleeding was implantation bleeding. My back is all of a sudden killing me now and im scared that has something to do with it. I want to buy a pregnancy tesy but we live in a small town and (contd)
we never got your second part. I would recommend getting on birth control, and as far as buying a test just go to the next town or two and get one there.
Q:I've been having sex with the same partner for about 1 year and a half but when we do it still hurts, we tried lube, extended foreplay and different positions but it still hurts for the first couple of minutes? Any ideas. Thank you sooo much in advance.
I would definitely go and see a doctor and talk to them.
Q:I'm the one whose period came early on birth control. I got it on Thursday (4 days early) and its almost over but I'm about to start the placebo pills so will I still be protected from pregnancy on them even though its not my menstrual week?
Yes you will be covered! But you should talk to your doctor about switching exhaust extra bleeding is really annoying.
Q:I (female19) work in a coffee shop and one of our regular customers (male25) seems like he likes my work friend with how much he talks to her. But she told me that he is interested in me and wants to know how I'd feel if he asked me on a date. I'm so shocked, it's unexpected and I never thought about it before, but he is very good looking so I might say yes. But he is 5 yrs older than me, I know its not too much, but what if we have nothing to talk about or anything in common? What do I do?
Age really doesn’t matter and with an age difference as small as that it’ll make no real difference.One of my house mates is 20 and in a relationship with someone who 50 and I couldn’t imagine two people more well suited.
Talk about anything, things you’re interested in, ask him questions, generally get to know each other.
- Chloe (whosingsthebodyelectric)
Q:hahaha omg some people are so stupid. Asking if they'll get pregnant from kissing or dry humping or from touching them with their hands.. Listen girls, if you don't know the first thing about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Learn about it, gain knowledge first! It's not that hard before asking the girls on here the same dumb questions every day!
Thank you! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Chloe (whosingsthebodyelectric)
Q:Have you heard anything about drinking vitamin c to bring on a miscarriage? what are your thoughts on this?
I’d never heard about in till I did some googling just now. I think that if someone didn’t want to carry on with a pregnancy there are safer options like going to a clinic, where is safe and hygienic and done by trained doctors/nurses than doing that to yourself.
- Chloe (whosingsthebodyelectric)
Q:I'm a bit worried about being pregnant even though the sexual activity I did was completely harmless and because of this I have been stressed out lately. Its troublesome especially because its messing with how my body works a bit. Do you know anyways to relieve stress?
- Exercise really is the best, get outside and walk around the block!
- Or meditate
- Make sure you are drinking enough water and eating
- Vitamin C (3 grams worth) will lower your cortisol levels
- Indulging in your favorite TV show (or find a new one to love!)
- Going on a Hike
- Something else you love to do
Q:I've always been coupley with a friend; go out for meals, stay with eachothers families, sleep in the same bed regularly, he's very sweet to me, have pet names & recently sex. He said he can't be in a relationship which I accepted. I'm 21, he' 25 & has depression. 2 weeks ago he flipped out over something minor and said we should't hang out for a while. It's hit me hard. The only explanation he's given me is that it was getting too heavy and that I don't understand. I'm worried. Any advice?
You need to listen to what he is telling you. He doesn’t want a relationship and he needs space. So give him his space. I would also start talking to other people so you two can get back to being friends.
Q:I've had mental problems in the past and I still have to deal with them, I was getting better when this super handsome guy asked my out and at the beginning I wasn't sure bc I'm not his type and people were going to laugh at me, him or us. But now we've been together two years and lately my best friend who is super hot and sexy is flirting with him, (c)
See part 2.